Managing Relationships

I winced through my blog and realised I seldom write about love relationships - a topic that is tender to many.  Most probably because I am guilty of writing in vacuum, I have forbidden them from entering my blog.   

  

Nonetheless, two friends conversing recently has prompted the need to write what I am going to say and I am parking this piece under the "Investments" label, simply because it IS pertained to ROI - return on investments.  

Every so often, you would hear a friend complain about a fading love. 

"My once lovey dovey scenario has somehow vanished and lost in passing time.  Do you think I've picked the right person?"  

"What constitutes as "right" anyway?"  

"Do we know?  We don't, but I seem to think that time has bleached the love we once had and hence we became lazy."  

"No.  You are wrong.  If you think about it, love grew pale the minute you guys became lazy."   

Some people tend to constantly look elsewhere for a better one when things aren't working out.  We tend to miss out the fact that we can actually work on the existing relationship.  

I am thinking this can be exactly the reason why many people prefer to be jumping in and out of relationships rather than tying the knots - simply because they have the impression that marriage can make couples complacent and lazy!

Picture this, if a married couple with kids cannot be arse to sweet talk, to listen with a heart or to install surprises every now and then - just because they now got an extended family to attend to, it ain't rocket science to figure out this kind of marriage isn't here to stay for the long haul. 

And the notion of keeping up appearances in a marriage for those without kids calls for an even higher regard - you can't blame your short temperament on the kids - 'cos you have none.  At the end of the day, it is really down to the two of you to work things out.  

The Beatles once said "Can't Buy Me Love."  There are a number of ways to invest and not all of them have to do with stocks or bonds or real estate.   The effort you put into improving yourself is an investment, and the way you use your time to cultivate a relationship is also an investment.

Make love or make peace - do whatever you have to do tonight before your investment turns sour.  Might be wise to have a drink while you do it.